YOU CAN’T WIN AN ARGUMENT- Dale Carnegie

YOU CAN’T WIN AN ARGUMENT -Dale Carnegie

OUTLINE OF THE ESSAY:

·        INTRODUCTION

·        THE WRITER LEARNS AN INVALUABLE LESSON

·        THE WRITER REGRETS

·        PATRICK J.O. HAIRE

·        INCOME TAX CONSULTANT

·        LINCOLN’S VIEWS

·        FROM ‘BITS AND PIECES’

·        OPERA’S PACT

·        CONCLUSION

Introduction: Dale Carnegie is an American essayist. In this essay the writer gives many examples to show that the one way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.

The writer learns an invaluable lesson: Carnegie along with his friend Frank Gammond attended a banquet. It was in honour of Sir Ross Smith, an Australian ace. He proved the story teller was wrong. He was sure the quote was from Shakespeare and not from the Bible. His friend Frank only suggested that he should avoid such uncomfortable situations when he proved a man wrong that could only make him unhappy.

The writer regrets: Carnegie feels unpleasant to have written a book on argumentation. He then resolved to avoid arguments.

Patrick J.O.Haire : Carnegie had a student who was a chauffeur. He was a little educated. He often used to deal with his customers in an aggressive manner. Carnegie first made him refrain from talking in order to avoid arguments.As a result Patrick became successful in his selling business.

Income Tax Consultant: Frederick S Parson was an Income Tax consultant. He very tactfully turns out a stubborn inspector who consents to leave the tax return of nine thousand dollars. Carnegie says that the inspector could claim importance when Mr. Parsons admitted his loud assertive voice. Hence the inspector was allowed to expand his ego and became a kind human being.

Lincoln’s views: Carnegie brings out the truth in Lincoln’s ideas. Lincoln is of the view that an individual should have the thought of equality and genuineness. Only then argument and disharmony can be kept away.

From ‘Bits and Pieces’: Suggestions can be made and accepted to keep away disagreement to become an argument. Disagreement needs to be accepted to solve the embarrassing situations.

Opera’s Pact: For fifty years of married life Opera tenor and his wife had an understanding. To listen to each other’s anger to get the best of an argument.

Conclusion: Carnegie states that it is not good to criticize, condemn or complain. He refers to Buddha’s teachings to be tactful and sympathetic to see others feelings. He also adds that there should be no hatred in humans.

Summary of ‘Ecology’ by A K Ramanujan

This poem, ‘Ecology’ is taken from A. K. Ramanujan’s third volume of poems, ‘Second Sight’, published in 1986. The speaker seems to be the poet himself or some imaginary person who is loyally devoted to his mother. He is very angry because his mother has a severe attack of migraine; a very bad kind of headache, often causing a person to vomit. This is caused by the fragrance of the pollen of the flower of the Red Champak every time it blooms. The fragrance is heavy and suffocating as the yellow pollen spreads everywhere. Even the doors of the speaker’s house cannot prevent the strong smell from entering the house. The walls of the house are able to absorb almost everything-the sounds, sights, the human voices, the harsh sounds produced when new shoes are worn. But they cannot stop the fog of pollen dust from the Champak trees.

The loving son therefore decides to cut down the tree, but he is prevented from doing so by his mother who sees the positive side of the tree in her garden. She says that the tree is as old as her and had been fertilized by the droppings of a passing bird by chance which is considered to be a very good omen. . Although the tree would give a terrible migraine to one line of cousins as a kind of gift. The positive side of it is that the tree provides many baskets of flowers. These can be offered to her gods and to ‘her daughters and daughter’s daughters’ every year. The yellow fog is caused by the yellow dust of the pollen. This is carried in the air and covers the earth like a heavy fog.

This poem portrays Ramanujan’s strong interest in the family as a very important theme of his poetry. His memories of the past would certainly bring pictures of his family, especially his mother who is self-sacrificing. There is also a reference to his Hindu heritage as he mentions the gods and the ancient beliefs in the poem. There is irony in the poem when the mother angrily protests against the idea of cutting down the tree even though she is suffering very badly from the migraine caused by it. She has a kind of emotional attachment to the tree, saying that it is as old as herself.

Each stanza of the poem has one particular idea. There is a casual connection between the ideas and they flow from one stanza to the next. ‘Flash her temper’; an instance of the use of irony because she is very angry at the idea of having the tree cut down. The actual meaning of the word ‘Ecology’ is not followed here but the poet seems to convey the thought that a particular kind of tree may have both negative and positive factors and therefore it need not be pulled down.